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Monday, 24 May 2010 15:19


Love is ……. PATIENT


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By your steadfastness and patient endurance you shall win the true life of your souls.


Moreover [let us also be full of joy now!] let us exult and triumph in our troubles and rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that pressure and affliction and hardship produce patient and unswerving endurance.

Romans 5: 3


I have done a series on what Love is……..I will try to help you understand what love is all about. The love is series…. , will give you a better understanding of what the Lord meant when He said that Love is the greatest virtue of all. In 1 Corinthians 13:4 the apostle Paul says that Love is patient.


As I said on numerous occasions, is that “to Love” is an action, meaning that Love is a conscious action and decision one makes. The world defines love as a feeling one gets, but the problem lies in the fact that when the feeling is gone, what happens now? So many love songs sing about falling in love, but they never really cover what happens if one falls out. Feelings come and go. One day you feel so in love but the next you almost hate that person. When one makes a decision to love someone no matter what, the feelings will follow. The Love the Lord showed me is much deeper than any physical or material love. Just think about this for a second; when two people get married they are so in love, but after a while they realise the person they have married is not as perfect as he/she may have seemed. This is where the Lord comes in. Jesus is like the Love Generator in any relationship. If you don’t really have the Lord in the middle, then your love for one another will grow cold over the years.


But if we hope for what is still unseen by us, we wait for it with patience and composure. Romans 8: 25


To Love you need patience and not feelings, lets take a look at the differences between these two words:



1. The state or quality of being patient; the power of suffering with fortitude; uncomplaining endurance of evils or wrongs, as toil, pain, poverty, insult, oppression, calamity, etc. "Strenthened with all might, . . . unto all patience and long-suffering." Col. i. 11. "I must have patience to endure the load." Shak. "Who hath learned lowliness From his Lord's cradle, patience from his cross." Keble.
2. The act or power of calmly or contentedly waiting for something due or hoped for; forbearance. "Have patience with me, and I will pay thee all." Matt. xviii. 29.
3. Constancy in labor or application; perseverance. "He learned with patience, and with meekness taught."



1. The sense by which the mind, through certain nerves of the body, perceives external objects, or certain states of the body itself; that one of the five senses which resides in the general nerves of sensation distributed over the body, especially in its surface; the sense of touch; nervous sensibility to external objects. "Why was the sight To such a tender ball as the eye confined, . . . And not, as feeling, through all parts diffused?" Milton.
2. An act or state of perception by the sense above described; an act of apprehending any object whatever; an act or state of apprehending the state of the soul itself; consciousness. "The apprehension of the good Gives but the greater feeling to the worse." Shak.
3. The capacity of the soul for emotional states; a high degree of susceptibility to emotions or states of the sensibility not dependent on the body; as, a man of feeling; a man destitute of feeling.
4. Any state or condition of emotion; the exercise of the capacity for emotion; any mental state whatever; as, a right or a wrong feeling in the heart; our angry or kindlyfeelings; a feeling of pride or of humility. "A fellow feeling makes one wondrous kind." Garrick. "Tenderness for the feelings of others." Macaulay.
5. That quality of a work of art which embodies the mental emotion of the artist, and is calculated to affect similarly the spectator. Fairholt.


Patience is an action. Even waiting for a breakthrough takes patience. Praying and trusting the Lord for the answering of your prayers takes patience. Patience is what most Christians lack nowadays because they want their breakthroughs yesterday. Even in marriage one will need patience with one’s beloved, God is the only one who can change your beloved from the inside out. He is the only one who can resurrect or restore your broken relationship. Love is all about putting oneself second to another’s needs or wants. I have read a book a while back where the married couple’s sex life was nonexistent because the one partner had emotional and physical hurts.


The husband hadn’t done as most other couples, hardening himself against her because his needs weren’t met; he instead crucified himself and stood by his wife cherishing her to her recovery. It took 3 years for her to heal but the husband didn’t care, his wife’s wellbeing was more important than his physical needs. Now their sex life is flourishing and neither of them ever knew that it could be so fulfilling for them both.


Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.


Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 
Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them
. Colossians 3:12-19


If that husband didn’t have patience, where do you think they would have ended? Most likely divorced or one entangled in an affair. Patience is the Key understanding what love all about is.


But as for that [seed] in the good soil, these are [the people] who, hearing the Word, hold it fast in a just (noble, virtuous) and worthy heart, and steadily bring forth fruit with patience. Luke 8: 15


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