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Some Facts about Standing for your marriage


Charlyne and Bod Steenkamp, Rejoice Marriage Ministries Inc.,

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1 Corinthians16:13 B

Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.


Be on your guard that you don’t get deceived by the enemy that while your standing you getting spiritual puffed up and think of yourself better than your spouse, ask the Lord continually to keep your heart humble. To be a “stander” doesn’t mean you can simply talk the “stander” talk or act a certain way, it must be you commit yourself totally to the Lord and your spouse; it must become a way of life for you, striving each day to be more like Jesus. There must be no place for sin, in any form, in your life.

As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the LORD is flawless. He is a shield for all who take refuge in him." 2 Samuel 22:31

"Blessed be the Lord my Rock, Who trains my hands for war and my fingers for battle. My loving kindness and my fortress, my high tower and my deliverer, my shield and the One in whom I take refuge; Who subdues my people under me." Psalm 144:1-2  (KJV)

"So take everything the Master has set out for you, well-made weapons of the best materials. And put them to use so you will be able to stand up to everything the devil throws your way. This is no afternoon athletic contest that we'll walk away from and forget about in a couple of hours. This is for keeps, a life-or-death fight to the finish against the devil and all his angels. Be prepared. You're up against far more than you can handle on your own. Take all the help you can get, every weapon God has issued, so that when it's all over but the shouting, you'll still be on your feet." Ephesians 6:11-13  (The Message)

"Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all to stand, stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield 0f faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God, praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints." Ephesians 6:13-18 (KJV)

Truth, righteousness, peace, faith, and salvation are more than words. Learn how to apply them. You'll need them throughout your stand. God's Word is an indispensable weapon. In the same way, prayer is essential in this ongoing warfare for the salvation of your spouse. Pray hard and long. Pray for your brothers and sisters. Keep your eyes open. Keep each other's spirits up so that no one falls behind or drops out.

"Thou therefore endure hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. No man that warreth entangleth himself with the affairs of this life; that he may please him who hath chosen him to be a soldier." 2 Timothy 2:3-4

"So be careful to do what the LORD your God has commanded you; do not turn aside to the right or to the left. Walk in all the way that the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live and prosper and prolong your days in the land that you will possess." Deuteronomy 5:32-33

Why Stand?

1.     The Lord will be your direction giver, guiding you to all the choices you must make.

2.     You will learn that God do answer prayers.

3.     The Lord will reveal Himself to you in ways you never even could imagine is possible.

4.     You will learn that God can be trusted.

5.     The dilemma of divorced and dating can be disastrous, but can be detoured.

6.     You will have a new found passion for Jesus, and you will certainly touch many people around you with this Hope the Lord gave you.

7.     The generational curse of divorce in your family can be broken.

8.     You will be leaving your family a legacy.

9.     Your prodigal spouse can repent and gain life eternal through a personal knowledge of Jesus Christ.

10. You can enjoy all the benefits and blessings of God with a  marriage restored and resurrected.


What will you experience during your Stand?


Do not expect people to understand your stand for marriage restoration. God has given to you, not to others, the assignment and the burden to stand with Him and to pray for your spouse. Because of this, you must always look to God, and not to people for your support. Sometimes you may feel so alone and hopeless but always remember that God will never leave you nor forsake you He is their holding your hand in the midst of your marriage problems. Always remember that this is a spiritual battle, and spiritual battles are won with spiritual weapons.

2 Corinthians 10:4

The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds

The solution for your marriage is Jesus and Jesus alone , I will say this again these steps were giving you is just tools to steer you into the right direction for your marriage restoration.

Your beloved spouse has been taken captive by satan to do his evil will. The words and actions that hurt you today are those of the Enemy, and not your spouse’s. Remember, satan is the father of all lies, so do not expect to hear the truth from your prodigal spouse. He is using your spouse for his mouth pieces, so try to see it that way. Love the sinner but hate the sin. Your war is with satan and not with your spouse.

One way or another, your prodigal will witness or hear about your changed lifestyle when you start looking to God alone to heal and to restore your marriage and family. Your prodigal, with their life in turmoil, will be strangely attracted to the peace that you have, in spite of the circumstances. Claim that peace by a consistent, close, loving relationship with Jesus Christ. The peace that attracts prodigals comes from God alone, and not from any self-help or secular program designed to get your spouse back in the door.

Always remember, this is not about manipulating your prodigal spouse back home so that you will be happy. It is a life or death battle for the eternal destiny of your prodigal’s soul. The end result will be life eternal, in Heaven, or a life in Hell, depending on what your beloved does with Jesus.Expect every area of your mate’s life to change as they silently seek relief from the torment the enemy is bringing their way.

Do not be wiped out by job changes, moves to distant places, new hobbies and attractions, or even an often-forced attempt to legalize their adultery by entering a non-covenant marriage to another person. Remember, God still considers you to be married.

Marriages are healed when spouses stop making excuses with man’s terms and start dealing with their mate’s sin problem in the prayer closet. No other human can tell you the exact day your prodigal will repent and come home.

Allow God to be God in bringing your prodigal home to Himself, and home to you. Be careful not to set stipulations for your prodigal’s return without first seeking God for His will. The prodigal journey back home is filled with false starts. Please be prepared for these.

Prodigals do come home.

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